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Welcome to the Wellstone Center for Love & Relationships’ Resource Page

 

Wellstone Center for Love & Relationships is dedicated to helping you cultivate loving, healthy, and fulfilling relationships that last a lifetime. We offer a range of support services including individual therapy, couple therapy, sex therapy, trauma support, dating coaching, discernment counseling, and infidelity recover, and this page provides resources to support you on your relationship journey.

 

For specific recommendations around resources and support materials, connect with your therapist or email us at info@loveyourrelationship.org.

 

 

Couple Therapy Reading List:

  • 8 DATES by John and Julie Gottman

  • NOT JUST FRIENDS: REBUILDING TRUST AND RECOVERING YOUR SANITY AFTER INFIDELITY by Shirley Glass

  • COME AS YOU ARE by Emily Nagoski

  • ATTACHED by Adam Levine and Rachel Heller

  • AND BABY MAKES THREE by John and Julie Gottman

  • HOLD ME TIGHT by Susan Johnson

  • THE 5 LOVE LANGUAGES by Gary Chapman

  • MATING IN CAPTIVITY: UNLOCKING EROTIC INTELLIGENCE by Esther Perel

 

Individual Therapy Reading List:

  • NO BAD PARTS by Richard Swartz

  • THE INNER CHILD WORKBOOK by Cathryn Taylor

  • THE SHADOW WORK JOURNAL by Keila Shaheen

  • THE DANCE OF ANGER by Harriet Lerner

  • RADICAL ACCEPTANCE by Tara Brach

  • THE BODY KEEPS THE SCOR" by Bessel van der Kolk

  • DARING GREATLY by Brené Brown

  • THE ANXIETY AND PHOBIA WORKBOOK by Edmund J. Bourne

  • MAN'S SEARCH FOR MEANING by Viktor E. Frankl

  • EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE by Daniel Goleman

  • QUIET: THE POWER OF INTROVERTS IN A WORLD THAT CAN'T STOP TALKING by Susan Cain

 

Therapist Directory Resources:

 

 

  • Psychology Today: Access articles on relational and personal health, find referral information for mental health providers and prescribers, and obtain a list of support programs and mental heath professionals near you. Visit Psychology Today 

 

 

  Sex Therapy Resources: 

 

  • American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors, and Therapists (AASECT):   Find valuable information and resources related to sexual health, education, and therapy: Visit AASECT

 

  • Scarleteen:   Access inclusive sexual health information, articles, forums, and advice for all ages: Visit Scarleteen 

 

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  • OMGYES.com- An honest, informative, research-based approach to women's pleasure. Explore what feels good and why and make a great thing even better. Visit OMG Yes!

 

  • "We Should Try It" -- An online sex questionnaire for couples. Once you and your partner answer all the questions about various sexual fantasies, we display only sex fantasies that you are both into. Visit "We Should Try It".

 

 

 
LGBTQIA+ Support Resources:

 

  • GLAAD (formerly the Gay & Lesbian Alliance Against Defamation): GLAAD is dedicated to promoting LGBTQIA+ acceptance through media advocacy and education. Their website offers valuable resources, news updates, and information on LGBTQIA+ representation in media. Visit GLAAD

 

  • The Trevor Project: The Trevor Project provides crisis intervention and suicide prevention services for LGBTQIA+ young people. If you or someone you know is in crisis, their lifeline is available 24/7. Visit The Trevor Project

 

  • PFLAG (Parents, Families, and Friends of Lesbians and Gays): PFLAG is a nationwide organization that offers support, education, and advocacy for LGBTQIA+ individuals and their families and allies. Their website provides a wealth of resources, including guides on coming out and understanding gender identity. Visit PFLAG

 

  • National LGBTQIA+ Task Force: The Task Force is a leading organization advocating for LGBTQIA+ rights and social justice. Their website includes resources on policy issues, activism, and community engagement. Visit the National LGBTQIA+ Task Force

 

 

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Parenting Support Resources:

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  • Parenting.org: Parenting.org is a comprehensive resource offering articles, videos, and tools for parents. Their website covers a wide range of topics, from pregnancy to adolescence, and provides expert advice and parenting resources. Visit Parenting.org

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  • Positive Parenting Program (Triple P): Triple P is an evidence-based parenting program designed to provide practical strategies for parents to improve their child's behavior and overall well-being. You can find resources, courses, and tips on their website. Visit Triple P

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  • National Parent Helpline: If you're in need of support or someone to talk to, the National Parent Helpline offers a confidential helpline and resources for parents. Visit the National Parent Helpline

 

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Recommended Reading for Parenting Support:

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  • "The Whole-Brain Child: 12 Revolutionary Strategies to Nurture Your Child's Developing Mind" by Daniel J. Siegel and Tina Payne Bryson - This book explores how brain development impacts children's behavior and offers practical strategies for effective parenting.

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  • "How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk" by Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish - A classic in parenting literature, this book provides communication techniques for building strong connections with children.

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  • "Parenting with Love and Logic" by Charles Fay and Foster Cline - Offers a balanced approach to parenting that combines love and empathy with clear boundaries and consequences.

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  • "Simplicity Parenting: Using the Extraordinary Power of Less to Raise Calmer, Happier, and More Secure Kids" by Kim John Payne and Lisa M. Ross - Explores how simplifying a child's environment can lead to greater emotional and mental well-being.

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  • "The 5 Love Languages of Children: The Secret to Loving Children Effectively" by Gary Chapman and Ross Campbell - Adapts the concept of love languages to parenting, helping you understand and connect with your child on a deeper level.

 

 

Grief Support Resources:

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  • Grief.com: Grief.com is a comprehensive resource offering articles, podcasts, and online courses to help individuals cope with grief. Explore their collection of grief resources, including support groups and expert advice. Visit Grief.com

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  • The Compassionate Friends: This organization provides support for families grieving the loss of a child. Their website offers information on grief support meetings, online forums, and resources for parents, siblings, and grandparents. Visit The Compassionate Friends

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  • National Alliance for Grieving Children: If you're looking for support for grieving children and teens, NAGC offers resources, educational materials, and information on grief support organizations across the United States. Visit NAGC

 

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Recommended Reading for Grief Support:

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  • "The Grief Recovery Handbook" by John W. James and Russell Friedman - Offers a structured program for working through grief and emotional pain.

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  • "Option B: Facing Adversity, Building Resilience, and Finding Joy" by Sheryl Sandberg and Adam Grant - Explores the experience of facing adversity and finding resilience and happiness after loss.

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  • "A Grief Observed" by C.S. Lewis - A profound exploration of grief by the renowned author, offering a personal perspective on loss and faith.

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  • "It's OK That You're Not OK: Meeting Grief and Loss in a Culture That Doesn't Understand" by Megan Devine - Challenges societal expectations around grief and provides a compassionate approach to healing.

 

 

PTSD and Trauma Support Resources:

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  • National Center for PTSD: This U.S. Department of Veterans Affairs website offers a wealth of resources on understanding and coping with PTSD. It includes articles, self-help tools, and information on treatment options. Visit the National Center for PTSD

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  • Sidran Institute: Sidran Institute provides resources and support for individuals and loved ones affected by trauma and dissociation. Their website includes articles, educational materials, and a helpline. Visit Sidran Institute

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  • RAINN (Rape, Abuse & Incest National Network): RAINN is the largest anti-sexual violence organization in the United States. Their website offers resources, hotlines, and support for survivors of sexual assault. Visit RAINN

 

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Recommended Reading for PTSD and Trauma Support:

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  • "The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma" by Bessel van der Kolk - Explores the effects of trauma on the body and mind, offering insights into healing.

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  • "Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving" by Pete Walker - Focuses on Complex Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (C-PTSD) and provides guidance for recovery.

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  • "The PTSD Workbook: Simple, Effective Techniques for Overcoming Traumatic Stress Symptoms" by Mary Beth Williams and Soili Poijula - A workbook with practical exercises for managing PTSD symptoms.

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  • "Trauma and Recovery: The Aftermath of Violence—From Domestic Abuse to Political Terror" by Judith Herman - Examines the psychological impact of trauma and the process of recovery.

 

 

IVF and Family Planning Support Resources:

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  • Resolve: The National Infertility Association: Resolve is a leading organization dedicated to supporting individuals and couples facing infertility. Their website offers resources, support groups, and educational materials specifically tailored to IVF. Visit Resolve

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  • American Society for Reproductive Medicine (ASRM): ASRM provides a wide range of resources and information on assisted reproductive technologies, including IVF. Their website includes patient education materials and guidelines for understanding the IVF process. Visit ASRM

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  • FertilityIQ: FertilityIQ is an online platform that offers patient reviews, ratings, and insights on fertility clinics, doctors, and IVF treatments. It can help you make informed decisions about your IVF journey. Visit FertilityIQ

 

Recommended Reading for IVF Support:

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  • "The IVF Companion: A Personal Organizer for Your IVF Journey" by Silvia Jansen - A practical guidebook and journal that helps you organize and navigate the IVF process.

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  • "IVF: A Detailed Guide: Everything I Wish I Had Known Before Starting My Fertility Treatments" by Susan M. Davis - Offers insights, tips, and personal experiences to help you prepare for IVF.

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  • "The Infertility Companion: Hope and Help for Couples Facing Infertility" by Sandra L. Glahn and William R. Cutrer - Provides support and guidance for couples struggling with infertility, including those considering IVF.

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  • "IVF & Ever After: The Emotional Needs of Families" by Nichola Bedos and Dr. Vicken Sahakian - Explores the emotional aspects of IVF and offers strategies for coping and thriving.

 

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Addiction Support Resources:

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  • National Helpline for Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration (SAMHSA): SAMHSA's helpline offers confidential, 24/7 support for individuals and families facing substance abuse and mental health challenges. You can reach them at 1-800-662-HELP (1-800-662-4357). Visit SAMHSA

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  • Alcoholics Anonymous (AA): AA is a well-known and widely available 12-step program for individuals struggling with alcohol addiction. Their website provides information on meetings, literature, and support. Visit Alcoholics Anonymous

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  • Narcotics Anonymous (NA): NA is a 12-step fellowship for individuals recovering from drug addiction. Their website offers resources, meeting information, and literature for those seeking help. Visit Narcotics Anonymous

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  • SMART Recovery: SMART Recovery is a science-based, self-help program that provides tools and techniques for addiction recovery. Their website offers online meetings and resources for individuals seeking a different approach to recovery. Visit SMART Recovery

 

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Recommended Reading for Addiction Support:

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  • "Clean: Overcoming Addiction and Ending America’s Greatest Tragedy" by David Sheff - A powerful exploration of addiction, its impact, and strategies for recovery.

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  • "Addiction Recovery Management: Theory, Research, and Practice" edited by John F. Kelly and Julie Yeterian - A comprehensive resource that covers the science and practice of addiction recovery.

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  • "Beautiful Boy: A Father's Journey Through His Son's Addiction" by David Sheff - A deeply personal account of a father's struggle to help his son overcome addiction.

 

 

Domestic Violence Support: 

 

  • National Domestic Violence Hotline:   If you or someone you know is experiencing domestic violence, call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-SAFE (1-800-799-7233) or visit the NDVH Website for help and resources.

 

  Veterans Support: 

 

  • Veterans Crisis Line:   Veterans and their loved ones can reach out to the Veterans Crisis Line at 1-800-273-8255 and press 1 for immediate assistance. Visit the VCL Website for more information. 

 

 

  Suicide Prevention and Support: 

 

  • National Suicide Prevention Lifeline:   If you or someone you know is in crisis, call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-TALK (1-800-273-8255) for immediate assistance or dial 911. Visit the NSPL Website for additional resources and support.

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